We are all here to evolve and to grow as human beings. Nothing stays the same. Life and you are always changing whether we are conscious of this fact or not. You can grow luxuriantly and flourish or grow by floundering and feeling frustrated. The difference is whether you consciously choose to grow or you let life give you problems to force you to grow.
In my life I have experienced growth both ways. I floundered a lot! I bumped up against a lot of resistance in myself and labeled it “someone else’s problem.” I lived more as a victim to my circumstances instead of seeing my life as a reflection of my own inner dialogue. Yes, I knew that our thoughts had power and our thoughts create our life, but I had no idea how to access the thoughts I thought about continuously. I had access to the thoughts regarding a choice I needed to make like what to eat for dinner or what to wear to the party or who to invite over for a picnic. I had access to thoughts concerning what I liked, didn’t like or how I felt. But I had no access to the conditioned thoughts that were creating the experiences I was having. Thus I floundered a lot.
I picked up a book by Martin Seligman called, “Flourish.” I did a deep dive into what it meant to flourish and how I could create a life where I was flourishing more than floundering. I learned that it was my perspective about life that was causing my brain to not function in ways that prevented the experiences I wanted. I saw my life as an endless to-do list with no end in sight. I felt overwhelmed all the time thinking of everything I had to do, all the time, forever and ever! I really wanted to experience my life as an endless love story where every to-do was an experience of love, joy, peace, possibility etc..
I had to stop seeing my life from the victim perspective and start to see everything and everyone as a possibility to experience love. I also had to stop telling myself I was not enough, and not understood. Those ways of thinking about me were not loving thoughts. I was very self-critical and nothing I did was every good enough or just right. I decided that to create a life I loved, a life where I was flourishing I would have to start by loving who I am and then start to love what I was doing no matter what it was that I was doing. This changed everything! I had to teach myself to think new thoughts about myself and life itself. Not easy, but the process of learning to see my life as an endless love story started to change how I experienced my life.
One might call this an awakening moment, or an insight or a present moment awareness. What actually was happening was I was beginning to be able to gain access to the thoughts that were conditioned, automatic and running in my brain over and over without my conscious thought! Once I could gain access to one unconscious thought and make it conscious it would stop! As if a switch in my brain opened up a lid that was closed and causing me to flounder, this “open lid” experience gave me access to higher levels of perception. The brain is an amazing thing. This was the beginning of a 13+ year journey to discover more about how the brain works, how I can change my thoughts to change my brain and then how that creates a new experience.
I wanted a consciously created life experience. Not a conditioned, past-based, not loving kind of experience. Once I taught myself how to think again, my life started to flourish. I was growing and evolving consciously and making new decisions and creating new experiences. My brain started to work for me, not against me!!
So, my question to you is, “Are you floundering or flourishing? Are you living consciously or unconsciously? There is a way to live consciously and experience your life as an endless love story and not just an endless to-do list. I can teach you how. Join my Be Meaningful Journey on-line course and I teach you how to transform your life so you too can flourish. It is a journey into the present and learning to live as an expression of your heart’s desires. Come and play with me!
xoxo, Kristi
